2015 - A Retrospective; Soundtrack by Queen
'Pegasus' ~ Jan Boeckhorst
The idea for this post came while chatting over breakfast with Liam, and he said, in his best reporter voice, “So, how was 2015 for you?” And it got me thinking …
At the beginning of the year, almost at the end of mediation, I thought the divorce would be final by Easter; freedom was so close, I could almost taste it …
Despite coming to an agreement through mediation, nothing came of it; and because it hadn’t been signed off by the court, it wasn’t binding. After that monumental waste of time and money, we had to go court for the first hearing for the Financial Dispute Resolution in July. The offers I made were rejected, and it felt like everything had come to a grinding halt …
After working through the storm of emotions, and coming to terms with still having to be in the same house as him, I decided I wasn’t going to let this get the better of me. Through meditation and prayer, and the wonderful support of my lovely friends, their love and the boys’ love, not forgetting my special little weekend breaks, I got closer to a calmer, more peaceful state …
We were supposed to have the 2nd hearing at court on 21st December, but that fell through. The key document that is required – the pensions actuary report – still wasn’t ready, despite them having over 4 months to sort it. I won’t bore you with the details of organisations messing about and not responding to questions that needed answering. But, the week before the hearing, I found out from my solicitor that the hearing was being postponed. It was only at that point did I realise how much I’d been ‘looking forward’ to it, for it to, hopefully, be done and dusted, so we could finally move forward. I could say I was crushingly disappointed, but that would be an understatement. For a couple of days, I couldn’t think about it or talk about it as I just ended up in tears. Then, I had a magical moment, which just seemed to wash away all the hurt and sadness, and I felt fine!
I still don’t know the ‘new’ date for the 2ndhearing, hopefully we’ll find out sooner rather than later. At the close of one year, and the start of another, I can honestly say that I feel great, positive, ready for anything …
Happy New Year! May 2016 bring blessings, peace, love, happiness, and all good things to every one of us.
